Decisions From Possibility

GrettaMay 16, 2020

How to make decisions for the future you want

Why is it so hard to make decisions for ourselves that we’ve never made before? ⁣These are decisions that I would classify as "new decisions."

These can be anything from deciding to start exercising when you’ve never lifted weights in your adult life, deciding to use a calendar when you’ve never planned out a day in your life, or even deciding to follow a budget even though you don’t have a clue where to start. Or, investing in that course or that coach.  All of these decisions feel really daunting and our immediate reaction is to say 'no.' Why?

We make decisions and we decide what’s right and what’s wrong. What’s “right” or “wrong” is based off of our belief systems from the past. Our brain looks to our past results to see what’s possible for us in the future. If it's something we've never done our brain clams up and says no. way. Not possible. Never done it before.  Not interested! But why?

⁣Our brain doesn’t like to create new thinking because new thinking, according to our lower brain, is hard and dangerous. Our lower brain really likes to be efficient. Thinking the same thoughts = efficient. A great example of this is: think back to a time you started a new job or took a class in school that was really challenging. You were probably very focused, grasping to make sense of things and at the end of the day - very tired.⁣ That’s because it requires new thinking.

When you go to make a new decision - ESPECIALLY one that you’ve never made before AND it involves money, time, effort and adopting a new identity, your lower brain is like lol no. This is definitely not a good decision. But the other part of your brain - the higher level, conscious brain that is thinking in possibility is saying YES. ⁣

⁣Here’s where the pain comes in. In order to get new results you have to think new thoughts and make decisions from possibility, not from your past. Meaning you literally have to override your lower brain’s very well-worn way of thinking with your conscious brain to get to the new decision. ⁣Your lower brain will be telling you NO WAY. The whole time while you're considering your new decision AND in the aftermath if you take the leap and say yes to the "new decision."

However, if you say no, you'll feel relief. And that's where things get tricky. It feels good in the moment but what you're saying 'no' to possibility, to growth. Saying 'yes' to new decisions feels harder but it's so worth it.  I firmly believe we are here to evolve and grow and become more of who we are. Notice I didn't say better. We're already 100% worthy - growth or stagnation doesn't change that fact, but that's for another post.

⁣Making new decisions for ourselves is disorienting and scary, but it's unbelievably exciting, too. If you want to learn to get from where you are to where you want to be, schedule a consultation! It's totally free, fun and great practice at making new decisions for yourself!

The easiest way to use your phone less

By Gretta | Sep 27, 2022 | 0 Comments

If you’re anything like me, one of your biggest time managment struggles is using your phone more than you want to. The ONLY WAY I’ve found that actually works to decrease my phone time (and I’ve tried so, so many ways for 6 years) is this: If you don’t want to be on your phone, put it in another room. Preferably the room that’s farthest away from where you spend your lounging time (probably your couch). You may want to decide ahead of time when you’ll put your phone away. Bonus points if the room farthest away is either upstairs or downstairs because the goal is to make it hard and annoying if you want to go grab your phone. My rule is: if my phone is sitting by me, I don’t expect myself not to use it. It’s just not fair to me or my brain stem that these apps target 🙂 (seriously, that’s why it feels so out of control – those apps are literally designed to target the automatic part of your brain.)   Here’s a good article if you want to read more about why social media apps are so addictive. And another on the effects of social media on our brains.   So before you get frustrated and beat yourself up over using those apps more than you want understand why you’re doing it in the first place (they are literally designed to suck you in for hours and hours), and start being more intentional with your phone and your brain 🙂 See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta   P.S. If you loved this, you’ve GOT to be in the next cohort of Organize Your Time. Doors are OPEN for early enrollment now through THIS FRIDAY, September 30th. Click here to learn more & join! Also, can you believe it’s October this weekend? Where did September go?    

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Why you need to keep getting “caught up”

By Gretta | Sep 20, 2022 | 1 Comment

If you need to keep getting caught up, it’s because you’re in the habit of telling yourself: I’ll do it later. Laundry. Projects. Appointments. The fastest & easiest way to change this habit is to notice when you’ve told yourself, I’ll do it later and decide instead to do it NOW. You’ll feel uncomfortable. You’ll try to convince yourself that it’ll be easier later. You’ll tell yourself that you don’t want to do it now and you’re not ready. These are the lies that are keeping you in the, “need to get caught up cycle.” The truth is, you won’t want to do it more later. You won’t feel like doing it more later. And it won’t be easier later. If you want to change how you spend your time, you need to learn how to manage your thoughts. This is what I’ll teach you how to do. If strategies and planners alone worked to help you manage your time, you’d already be doing it my friend. Mind management IS the missing piece. It’ll change everything for you. If you’re ready to start managing your time well, schedule a consult & let’s see what program may be right for you. See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta   P.S. If you loved this, you’ve GOT to be in the next cohort of Organize Your Time. Doors will reopen for enrollment on December 1st and we’ll kick off the group on the first Monday of the new year 🙂   Click here to join the waitlist!

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The easiest way to get more done

By Gretta | Sep 13, 2022 | 0 Comments

The easiest way to get more done isn’t to plan everything out. When you put every last thing you want to do in your calendar, you’re skipping a crucial step. Prioritizing.  When you skip prioritizing and jump straight into throwing everything into your calendar, you’re setting yourself up for frustration, confusion, stress and procrastinating. Here’s why: The truth is, you’re planning things that don’t need to be planned  These are the easy things that don’t really have a hard deadline, they’re the mundane things that don’t have an impact on your biggest goals, and these are the things you’d do anyway even if you didn’t plan them. And because these things are EASY you’ll do them and leave yourself little time and energy for the things that you actually need to do, that WILL have a big impact. and you’re skipping things that DO need to be planned because you don’t yet know how to plan these things in a way that makes them easy to do – there is a way and I can’t wait to teach you!. These are things like big projects, making offers, and presentations. Without prioritizing, you’ll be using up your energy on the easy things, and procrastinating on the hard things. If you want to break this cycle, schedule a consult and let’s talk about what program may be right for you.  See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta   P.S. If you loved this, you’ve GOT to be in the next cohort of Organize Your Time. Doors will reopen for enrollment on December 1st and we’ll kick off the group on the first Monday of the new year 🙂   Click here to join the waitlist!

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How to Follow Through When You Don’t Want To

By Gretta | Sep 6, 2022 | 0 Comments

There may be a way to actually WANT to do those things that you don’t want to do. If you’re sucking it up and gritting your teeth to get through those unwanted tasks OR you’re just avoiding those tasks all together until the last minute, you don’t have to keep doing this. Here’s what to do instead: 1. Sell yourself on why you WANT to do that thing. You can do this by asking yourself a series of questions: – If you don’t do it now, when will you do it? Think realistically about your week and what else you have going on. – How would you feel if you got it done now? – How will you feel once it’s done? Really picture that moment and let it sink in. And then … Make it EASY. 2. What would be the VERY first thing you’d do if you were to start it now? 3. What would that look like specifically? Picture yourself doing that thing. 4. What would make that thing more enjoyable? How could you switch it up or make things even more comfortable for yourself while you’re working on that thing? Could you take a different route if it’s a walk? Or listen to music while working? Or read outside? Could you work on the couch under a blanket with some tea? Would getting dressed, doing your hair, and throwing on a little makeup help? Get creative! 5. Write that very first step down (from #2) & go 🙂   THIS process is the difference between “should’ing” yourself and SELLING yourself. Should’ing yourself makes it HARDER and LESS ENJOYABLE to get into action. Selling yourself makes it EASIER and MORE FUN to get into action.   See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta   P.S. If you loved this, you’ve GOT to be in the next cohort of Organize Your Time. Doors will reopen for enrollment on December 1st and we’ll kick off the group on the first Monday of the new year 🙂 Click here to join the waitlist!

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How to Be Consistent

By Gretta | Aug 30, 2022 | 0 Comments

The Formula for Consistency   This is a concept I started (accidentally) back in the early days of my coaching business (May 2020) before I had my first client. I gave myself a 30 blogs in 30 days challenge.   At first, writing those daily blogs felt IMPOSSIBLE. It took me close to two hours to write one blog in the beginning, but I noticed by about day 10, blog writing actually started to feel easy. And by the end of the 30 days? I was writing blogs in less than 30 minutes & I actually really enjoyed writing them – and still do to this day.   This consistency process was refined last September when I gave myself a “last 90 days” challenge and broke it up into three, 30 day increments where I challenged myself to walk/jog 1 mile a day (within two days this became a walk 1 mile/day challenge #sonotarunner). This is another habit I still do even today, almost exactly 1 year later   In fact, I recently increased the intensity to two 1 mile walks daily + even though it’s double what I’d been doing, it felt easy!   I’ve used this same formula to create other business habits, like, email writing, and posting on IG and selling in stories, and other health habits, like eating breakfast daily, drinking mineral mocktails daily, and recently – jogging (not daily + it lasted two weeks until my shins decided to splint #sonotarunner).   The truth is, you can use this formula to create any habit you want to create.  So without further ado, The Formula for Consistency is: [Activity x duration x frequency] in a set timeframe If math is also not your strong suit, lemme give you some examples: Walk x 1 mile x daily for 30 days Pitch x 1 email x daily for 30 days Tidy x 1 room x daily for 30 days Blog post x 2000 words x 2 days/week for 30 days Offer x 1 post/story x daily for 14 days Here are the main takeaways:   – You’re going to want to keep it to ONE habit – Make sure that one thing is super specific – Decide how long/how much/how far/what location (duration) & how many days per week (frequency) – Give yourself an end point – my recommendation is no more than 30 days at a time – Track it by marking off a calendar, bubbling in circles with dates by them, or celebrating on Instagram. How you track it doesn’t matter; just track it! Happy habit creating!   See you next week for Time Tip Tuesday!   Gretta P.S. If you’d love to create your habit, join my time management group program where you’ll learn the real reason why you haven’t been able to be consistent before + exactly how to solve for it Click here for details! Doors close next Monday, September 5th so don’t wait too long to decide! I hope to see you inside 🙂

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Why Things Pile Up

By Gretta | Aug 23, 2022 | 0 Comments

Laundry, your to-do’s, that pile of books, bills, appointments … there’s a simple reason why these things keep piling up. You have a habit of telling yourself, “I’ll do it later.” Because you aren’t ready now. You don’t have what you need now. You can’t focus on it now. You’re too tired now. You don’t feel like it now. & the way we do one thing is the way we tend to do most things.  So when you’re applying this thought habit to almost every area of your life, things tend to pile up in lots of areas. And you end up looking around at all of your piles and to-do’s and unmade appointments and think: there’s too much to do and I don’t even know where to start. Which has you feeling overwhelmed, shutting down, scrolling on your phone, doing the quick and easy thing … and not deciding on where to start now. This keeps you in the cycle of, “I’ll do it later. If you want to break this cycle you have to start now – not by force or willpower but by asking yourself questions like: What’s the smallest piece I’m willing to do right now? What would be easy? What would be fun? What do I want to do? Where could I start?   & get started now. Remember, 1% action WILL create change. The smallest little bit counts. If you want to organize your time, you can download your free copy of my weekly planner & workbook right here! See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta P.S. If overwhelm is what’s holding you back from having your sh*t together, join my time management group program where you’ll learn how to stay on top of everything – easily.

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How to Organize Your Time

By Gretta | Aug 16, 2022 | 0 Comments

If you feel like your to-do list is never ending, you have a pile of sticky note reminders, and you feel overwhelmed, let’s organize your time. First, you’ll want to write down everything you could do this week. Then, you’ll want to pick your top 5 priorities that you want to make sure get done this week – no matter what happens! After that, you’ll want to take a look at everything you wrote down, and pick 10 more things you’d love to get done this week – assign 2 to each day. Now, odds are everything from your list won’t fit – and that’s ok! You’ll definitely want to keep that list as a reference point to go back to when you have some downtime or when you get your 3 daily priorities done. Simply pick one thing that you feel most compelled to do right now, and get it done. Cross it off when you’ve completed it because, duh, that just feels good! This process that I outlined is the framework of my weekly planning process – you can totally do this on your own or you can use my handy dandy free Weekly Planner. In this planner, I cover things like: 1. How to write your plan in a way so that you actually do it and don’t avoid and procrastinate on it 2. How to be consistent and create a new weekly habit 3. How to know which top 5 priorities you should pick each week You can grab your copy right here. See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta P.S. Have a time management question you’d love to have answered? Put your question in the comments and you may see the answer in a future Time Tip Tuesday!

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How to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed

By Gretta | Aug 9, 2022 | 0 Comments

The key to managing your time is to be able to calmly and easily sort through & separate the important from the unimportant and then follow through with the important (either directly or through delegation) and delay or delete the unimportant – without worry, stress, confusion, or overwhelm. The easiest way to accomplish this is to have a goal. Not a list of actions to check of every day, a result goal. Result goals are dollar amounts, pounds lost, inches gained, # employees hired, # of customers added, work hours/per week on average, rooms organized, to name a few examples. A goal gives you a focal point and when you have a focal point, you have clarity. And when you have clarity, you can easily prioritize your to-do list. And when you have a clear, easy, and doable prioritized plan for your day, you can get into action easily. And when you get into action easily? You make the changes you want to make.  This is how you make progress even when life happens. This is how you create work/life balance. This is how you enjoy your downtime. This is the exact process you’ll learn in my time management group program, Leverage Your Time. You’ll learn how to set a result goal, how to create a prioritized plan, how to easily follow through with that plan, and how to know when it’s time to adjust. You can join here. See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta P.S. Have a time management question you’d love to have answered? Put your question in the comments and you may see the answer in a future Time Tip Tuesday!

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An Easy & Highly Effective Way To Plan – The Top 5

By Gretta | Aug 2, 2022 | 0 Comments

So much of what we think we need to do isn’t important. Make your brain do the hard work of identifying what’s actually most important and plan those things out clearly and specifically. This is the key to moving the needle (instead of just being busy).   To plan your week simply & effectively … Ask yourself: What are the 5 most important things for me to complete by Friday? Assign 1 to each day Before you write those things down, ask yourself: “What exactly will I produce/create/accomplish each day?” Write that down. It should be the result of your action, not the action itself. Put a little circle next to that thing. When you complete your daily result, fill in that circle. Or, if you’re adding this to your Google calendar and you complete it, change the color of that time block. Congratulations! You’re staying out of overwhelm & getting the most important things done.   Happy planning! See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta P.S. Have a time management question you’d love to have answered? Put your question in the comments and you may see the answer in a future Time Tip Tuesday! P.P.S. If you loved this, join my email list. I share exclusive tips, perspective, and freebies over there, every Monday morning.

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I’m great at starting things but I procrastinate when it comes time to finish them

By Gretta | Jul 26, 2022 | 0 Comments

I think there are two types of perfectionists in this world – great starters and great finishers. You, my friend, are a great starter. & that’s amazing (as a great finisher – I envy you ;)) But you came here to learn how to finish those projects without procrastinating so let’s talk about how you can do just that! First, you’re going to want to get curious about the two stories you tell yourself: the one that has you starting things easily & the one that has you avoiding finishing. This is a little free mindset coaching here: you want to understand these two stories because one has you taking action and the other has you procrastinating. The ONLY difference between taking action and procrastinating is the story you tell yourself because your stories create your feelings (emotions) and we take action (or inaction) based on what we’re feeling. When you have both stories written down, highlight ONLY the facts. Facts are neutral, boring things we would all agree on. The story is what’s making it hard for you to finish, not the facts. Sit with the facts and notice what you might do if you were believing the story that had you diving into work easily. Second, you’re going to want to make finishing as low-pressure and easy as possible. You can do that by asking yourself two simple yet powerful questions: 1. What’s the very first thing I would do? 2. How can I make that as easy and simple and clear as possible? Write that ONE thing down & jump into action. If you’re still avoiding, make that first step even easier, even more clear, and even more doable. With planning to navigate out of procrastination, the goal is to get into action. The SMALLEST action possible starts to build momentum. Repeat this process as needed until you’re done!   See you for next week’s Time Tip Tuesday, Gretta P.S. Have a time management question you’d love to have answered? Put your question in the comments and you may see the answer in a future Time Tip Tuesday! P.P.S. If you loved this, join my email list. I share exclusive tips, perspective, and freebies over there, every Monday morning. 

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