Decisions From Possibility

GrettaMay 16, 2020

How to make decisions for the future you want

Why is it so hard to make decisions for ourselves that we’ve never made before? ⁣These are decisions that I would classify as "new decisions."

These can be anything from deciding to start exercising when you’ve never lifted weights in your adult life, deciding to use a calendar when you’ve never planned out a day in your life, or even deciding to follow a budget even though you don’t have a clue where to start. Or, investing in that course or that coach.  All of these decisions feel really daunting and our immediate reaction is to say 'no.' Why?

We make decisions and we decide what’s right and what’s wrong. What’s “right” or “wrong” is based off of our belief systems from the past. Our brain looks to our past results to see what’s possible for us in the future. If it's something we've never done our brain clams up and says no. way. Not possible. Never done it before.  Not interested! But why?

⁣Our brain doesn’t like to create new thinking because new thinking, according to our lower brain, is hard and dangerous. Our lower brain really likes to be efficient. Thinking the same thoughts = efficient. A great example of this is: think back to a time you started a new job or took a class in school that was really challenging. You were probably very focused, grasping to make sense of things and at the end of the day - very tired.⁣ That’s because it requires new thinking.

When you go to make a new decision - ESPECIALLY one that you’ve never made before AND it involves money, time, effort and adopting a new identity, your lower brain is like lol no. This is definitely not a good decision. But the other part of your brain - the higher level, conscious brain that is thinking in possibility is saying YES. ⁣

⁣Here’s where the pain comes in. In order to get new results you have to think new thoughts and make decisions from possibility, not from your past. Meaning you literally have to override your lower brain’s very well-worn way of thinking with your conscious brain to get to the new decision. ⁣Your lower brain will be telling you NO WAY. The whole time while you're considering your new decision AND in the aftermath if you take the leap and say yes to the "new decision."

However, if you say no, you'll feel relief. And that's where things get tricky. It feels good in the moment but what you're saying 'no' to possibility, to growth. Saying 'yes' to new decisions feels harder but it's so worth it.  I firmly believe we are here to evolve and grow and become more of who we are. Notice I didn't say better. We're already 100% worthy - growth or stagnation doesn't change that fact, but that's for another post.

⁣Making new decisions for ourselves is disorienting and scary, but it's unbelievably exciting, too. If you want to learn to get from where you are to where you want to be, schedule a consultation! It's totally free, fun and great practice at making new decisions for yourself!

Feelings

By Gretta | May 25, 2020 | 2 Comments

Why we do (or don’t do) anything and everything. Why do we want anything? Because of how we think the having of it will make us feel. This is true with anything. Vacations, jobs, clothes, make-up, working out, having kids, not having kids, starting a new hobby, buying that new car. Anything. It’s the same reason we don’t do things. We avoid activities that we think will make us feel rejected, embarrassed, uncertain, scared or uneasy, to name a few. Which is why most of us feel uncomfortable and often avoid trying new things that are way outside of our comfort zones, especially as we get older. At this point in our human existence, our brain still thinks feeling embarrassed is akin to say the threat of death by tiger. Of course, in our logical brain we know that embarrassment does not equal death but our brains are still pretty convinced they’re one in the same. Good feelings = good, bad feelings = we’re all gonna die. What are feelings, exactly? A feeling is just a sensation or a vibration in your body that starts in your brain. That’s it. Our bodies are meant to process emotion but often what we do instead of just feeling the sensation is we resist our emotions, we react to our emotions, or we avoid our emotions. What does that look like? In this analogy, the beach ball represents our feelings. I want you to imagine resisting our emotions as trying to hold a large beach ball underwater. The harder we fight to keep it underwater, the less in control of the beach ball we feel. And you know that sucker is for sure going to pop up in your face at some point, no matter how long you hold it under. Reacting to our emotions is like throwing the beach ball at someone. In the moment, depending on the emotion you’re acting out, it can feel temporarily relieving but there’s generally a negative consequence on the back end, just like trying to hold that beach ball underwater. Avoiding an emotion is simply covering up the beach ball with a towel. In our lives, we do this by overeating, over-drinking, over social media-ing, over Netflix-ing, over-snacking. Basically anything we can do to not feel, to go numb to our emotions. The emotion is still there, it’s just under a layer of food, alcohol, phone or TV use. The problem with this is, just because we don’t feel it, doesn’t mean it’s not there. In my experience, once you stop the numbing activity, whatever the emotion is that you were trying to avoid roars back with a vengeance, even bigger and stronger than when you felt it come on initially. What do all three of these ways to handle emotions have in common? They all produce a negative result by creating more problems in your life. You were angry and you handled it by yelling at your spouse and now you two aren’t speaking. You were sad so you ate cookies and now you have some extra weight. You were feeling shame on Sunday, so you spent the day on your phone instead of grocery shopping, cleaning, and working out. Now it’s Sunday evening and you’re not at all prepared for the week ahead and you’re making that mean terrible things about you. Now you’re feeling more shame and self-loathing. What can we do instead? Process our emotions. Using our beach ball analogy, that simply looks like holding the beach ball out in front of you. Now, it might feel a little uncomfortable. But if you allow your emotions they do fade away. And you’ll notice that even the most uncomfortable emotions aren’t a problem if you process them and feel them. Once you truly know this, you won’t be in a rush to get rid of your negative emotions. The best way I know how to do this is to label the emotion and simply describe how it feels in my body. For example, to me, fear feels like a tightness in my stomach, my hands start to sweat, my heart beats pretty fast, and the thoughts in my brain seem to be moving quickly. I have a hard time focusing as well. That’s it. That’s fear. I’ll keep repeating that to myself. And then I try to feel it more, by opening myself up to it and inviting it in. It cannot hurt you. It’s just a vibration in your body. It’s the same process with any emotion. I find that some tend to stick around longer than others. Like anxiety. If I notice it’s there I’ll go through the process of labeling it, describing it, and opening myself up to it. Sometimes it sticks around and I just tell myself, ok, I guess anxiety is coming along for the ride today. No problem. Finally, why do all of this? Lots of reasons. The biggest to me, aside from eliminating a whole lot of extra negative consequences that come from resisting, reacting, and avoiding our emotions – is it allows me to live a bigger life. Try new things. Have different experiences. Go after my goals and my big dreams. That’s why. If I’m willing to feel any emotion, there’s nothing I won’t go after. If this has been helpful, and you want to take this work to a deeper level, schedule a free consultation and we can chat about to use this work to fully transform your life. Thanks for reading! Gretta    

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Circumstances vs. Thoughts

By Gretta | May 24, 2020 | 0 Comments

There are circumstances and there are your thoughts about the circumstances. All circumstances are neutral, our stories about them are what make them “good” or “bad.” Before learning about thought work, I, like most people, thought circumstances caused my feelings. My dog is barking, I’m annoyed. I booked a photography job, I’m happy. Someone cut me off in traffic, I’m mad. But, it doesn’t actually work like that. There are circumstances, and then there are our thoughts about the circumstances, and those thoughts are what cause our feelings. Let’s pick a benign example. Warm weather, specifically an outdoor temperature of 90 degrees. Now, if you ask my husband. He would say 90 degrees is hot, uncomfortable. He’s not a fan. Me? I love it. I love warm weather. I feel comfortable, happy. The temperature is completely neutral. Your thoughts about the circumstance is what makes a circumstance “positive” or “negative.” Let’s back up. What are circumstances? Circumstances are outside of our control. They’re other people, events, our past, and the weather. Circumstances are boring facts. What are thoughts? Thoughts are merely sentences in our mind. and our thoughts are the meaning we give to these boring facts. We have both conscious and unconscious thoughts – meaning, there are some we’re aware of and some we aren’t. The underlying issue with any problem is our thinking, not our circumstances. One of my favorite exercises to get clarity around any problem I’m struggling with is to write everything down that I’m thinking. I don’t edit myself, I just write until I get it all out. And then I go back through and highlight only the facts (the circumstances). Remember, circumstances are boring and everyone would agree on them. If a camera was there, what would the camera have seen? What did they say, exactly, word for word? As an example, “I’m overweight.” is a thought. I weigh x number of pounds is a circumstance. Or, he said, “I’d really rather wait to buy that,” and “He wasn’t supportive.” is a thought. This exercise alone is incredibly insightful. It’s why I do it every single morning and anytime I’m experiencing a problem. There are many times that I just laugh at myself because I’ve filled up two pages with words and I have maybe 1 or 2 sentences that are facts. The rest is my story about those facts. It can be incredibly relieving and freeing to gain just that little bit of awareness about what you’re creating for yourself. And to realize you have a choice in the matter. That’s where all of your power is – always. I’d love to know what you think of this exercise if you try it!

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The Difference Between Affirmations, Changing Habits, and Thought Work

By Gretta | May 23, 2020 | 0 Comments

Imagine you have a broken arm. Do you pick a band-aid, pain medicine, or a cast to fix it? The band-aid is the affirmation, the pain medicine is changing your habit, and the cast is the thought work. When we break our arm, what we really need is a cast, right? We can put a band-aid on it and it’s a really quick fix, but it’s really not going to solve for the real issue, the broken arm. We can take pain medicine every day, and it does feel better, but we have to keep going back to the pain medicine and we’re stuck just taking the medicine.It feels better temporarily but it doesn’t get to the root issue: the arm is broken, it needs to be re-set and cast so it can heal. That’s the thought work. Yes, it takes longer, yes it can be a painful, but ultimately, it solves for the issue. Forever. Let’s dive a little deeper. For clarity’s sake, let’s all get on the same page with what affirmations, habits, and thought work are, exactly. Affirmations are defined simple, positive statements declaring specific goals in their completed states. Habits are a regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. Thought work is writing down (or talking to a coach about) your thoughts and beliefs, examining them and the results they are creating, and then choosing what to think on purpose. Why is an affirmation a band-aid? Affirmations are only as powerful as your belief in them. Often times, affirmations are a bridge too far. We try to go from, “I hate myself” to “I love myself,” and our brains are like lol no. So we keep trying to plaster this pretty thought over this ugly thought in hopes that it changes the ugly thought. Except what actually happens is we create a whole new negative thought in the process that we may not even be aware of. We can end up doubling down on the negative instead of really starting to believe the positive. Now, it is possible that you can pick an affirmation that you do believe and that can make a positive impact. Our thoughts are incredibly powerful so when you believe it and practice thinking it multiple times per day, it’s going to make a difference. However, it’s a shot in the dark and not the most efficient, effective way to create change. And it ultimately doesn’t bring awareness to the true, underlying problem – our thoughts and beliefs. It’s a quick fix. Why is changing a habit the pain medicine? When we try to change a habit we’re changing only from the action level. Just like with affirmations, we can make positive change from just the action level. When that works, just like with affirmations, we already have some supporting beliefs that make that change possible. We’re usually unaware of these beliefs. So just like with affirmations, we have no idea what’s going to stick and what’s not going to stick. What happens most often when trying to implement new habits, we can usually stick to them for a few days, maybe a few weeks but then our old programming (beliefs) take over and say no, no, no. This is not what we do and we’re back to our old habits. Think New Year’s resolutions. Now, I personally love making resolutions and I do end up making and keeping at least one new habit per year. However. with these habits I’m simply treating the symptom. I started making my bed on a daily basis 5 years ago because of a New Year’s resolution. That was a symptom of me wanting a bigger, different life. One where I was on top of shit and organized and working in a different career and making way more money. It was a small change that I enjoyed making because it represented to me this bigger life, but it was just a symptom of a deeper issue: not so happy with my life, wanting more, wanting something different, career, money, and organization-wise. It’s actually the same year I discovered life coaching and self-help books and was introduced to thought work. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Why is thought work the cast? Thought work, as the name implies, uncovers your thoughts and beliefs. The reason we do anything, ever, is our thoughts. Our thoughts create our feelings, and our feelings create our actions, and our actions create the results in our lives. If you want to make any change in your life, it’s going to be from the thought and belief level. What’s tricky about our thoughts is we’re often unaware of what we’re even thinking most of the time. And, our beliefs aka thoughts we think over and over, can be even harder to identify. With our beliefs we’re often like fish in water. We don’t know it’s a belief because we’re in it, living it. We can’t see it. Thought work can be painful, it can take longer, and it’s not a quick-fix. But, when you do the work, gain awareness about what you’re thinking, and notice what results your current thinking is creating for you (your current circumstances, fyi) – it feels like magic. It’s as if you’ve flipped the light on and now you can see exactly why you are where you are. Like Stacey Boehman says, when you’re the problem, you always have the solution. From there, and only there, you can take responsibility for your life. For the thoughts you’re thinking, for the current results you’re getting, and from that awareness you can make real, lasting change.

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Eating Intentionally

By Gretta | May 22, 2020 | 0 Comments

There is a way to eat exactly as much or as little dessert as you want. And feel great about it. Let me know if any of this sounds familiar: How healthy I eat depends on whether or not I’ve made any treats. I can’t have desserts in the house. I ate more than I wanted to. Again. I can’t control myself around Oreos, Nutella, cookies, brownies, <insert food of choice>. Maybe you hide food from yourself or make it harder to get to, freeze food, make smaller batches and yet. You just can’t quite stop eating more than you want to. Than you intended to. Maybe you’re feeling out of control, sad, frustrated, worried, defeated. What is it costing you? What if you could eat the exact amount of dessert you want to eat? Without any drama. Would you worry less? Feel calm, in control and confident? My guess is yes. I know, I’ve been there. When you’re feeling confident, what would you do? Create new recipes? Build your buisness? Write that blog post? I bet you would. If you’re ready to let go of feeling out of control around desserts, come join me in my 6 week program: Eating Intentionally. You’ll get 6 weeks of 1:1 coaching where you’ll learn all of the tools you need to manage your mind so you can comfortably be around lots of desserts, every single day, and eat only what you really want to eat.     

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How to get a bigger life

By Gretta | May 18, 2020 | 0 Comments

When you’re willing to feel any emotion, that’s when your life expands. I didn’t fully grasp this concept until this weekend. I was asked by a large (by my standards!) account to do an Instagram takeover to discuss food styling with their 170k followers. They had initially asked me to do this well over 3 weeks ago and I just ignored that part of the email because I was terrified. What would I say? What if everyone hates it? What if I don’t have anything useful to contribute? What if my final product turns out poorly-styled? Again, my old stories of how I belong out of the spotlight came rushing back. After sitting on the request, I reached back out and said I’d be interested in doing the takeover if it was still on the table, and that I had totally chickened out before. Thankfully they agreed and we set a date: May 17th. The morning of May 17th arrived and I was so nervous all morning. Now, this was coming on the heels of doing 5 other new things that week and I was feeling a little bit low on courage. However, I did some thought work (more on this in another post) and got myself in a place where I calmly took action. I focused on serving the people who were watching and providing my best tips for food styling. With those thoughts in mind, I got everything set up and organized and I pressed record on my first video. In that first video, my introductiion, I felt my nervousness acutely. I recorded 3 tries and watched the final version 10 times before hitting ‘share.’  But with each story and tip I shared, my nerves calmed a bit. By the end, I was feeling mostly clear-headed and relaxed. The feedback I got from dozens of people was overwhelmingly grateful and positive! In that moment I really understood what, “when you’re willing to feel any emotion, that’s when your life expands” meant. It means you’ll take on new experiences, new challenges, and try new things becuase you’re not afraid of the emotion on the other side of those things. And, by the way, we are ALWAYS the ones who cause these emotions! These new actions don’t cause our emotions. If I had let fear or fear of failure take over and let it stop me from saying ‘yes’ to the take over, I would have never had the opportunity to “speak” to 170,000 people. I would have not been able to help them progress on their journey as food photographers. I would have kept my knowledge safely tucked away all to avoid feeling an emotion. I LOVED being able to share tips that people found useful and I loved connecting with each and every woman over DM’s. Answering questions, providing more examples and helping them to solve problems. I’m so grateful to myself for saying ‘yes’ to fear and new opportunities.

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Vulnerability

By Gretta | May 16, 2020 | 0 Comments

It won’t kill you. Even though it feels like it could. The photo for my instagram post was almost a plant. I literally went to hit post and I was like, I’m doing it again. I’m hiding. This time it’s behind a plant. Stop that nonsense. And then I thought, what would scare me? Oh yes, posting a picture of me wearing the Britney Spears microphone I wear when coaching. Yes, that would do it. You’ll have to go check out my instagram post for that one! Ok, let’s continue: You know what scares the absolute crap out of me? Showing up on instagram and on my website and putting myself out there into the world. In my life, I’ve most frequently taken the supporting role route. I don’t often share what I’m working on with much of anyone, least of which on a public forum. Heck, I just recently started sharing my food photos to Facebook almost two full years after starting food photography! I kept them in a safe little bubble on Instagram and would freak out when anyone I knew in real life started following me. The same thing started happening here and LET ME TELL YOU THAT FREAK OUT WAS x1000. But I digress. In 8 years of doing portrait photography I think I shared the fact that I was a photographer maybe 3 times publicly. Side note: If you only know me as a life coach, I also do photography, both food and portrait. And I’m a pediatric occupational therapist, hi, hello. This is me. Vulnerability and sharing myself fully feels wildly uncomfortable. I’ve never, ever wanted the spotlight. Not in class, not in my friend groups, not at work. One of the very best examples of this is when I was In 3rd grade, I landed the lead role in our school play. I freaked out, turned it down and asked for the part with the least amount of lines. In many ways, that’s how I’ve lived my life. I have things to offer and help and contribute to other humans, only to hide those gifts away. Showing up here feels like I’m walking into the lead role, into the spotlight with nowhere to hide. Here’s to me showing up fully in my life and letting you know it’s safe for you to do the same so we can both live out our biggest, wildest dreams. No matter what they might be.

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Following a Schedule

By Gretta | May 16, 2020 | 0 Comments

THE SECRET TO FOLLOWING A SCHEDULE Let’s back up. As a school Occupational Therapist I had summers off. I’d go into each summer thinking, ok, this one will be different. I’ll be really productive and get so much done. I tried different strategies but none of them worked. The deeper I got into each summer break, the worse I felt. When it was time to go back to school I felt so much relief. Ok, well at least I don’t have to feel like crap about not doing more everyday. I have my structure and routine back. And then the regret would kick in. Four summers in a row. And, four summers in a row I’d look at all of the time that I had and how I wasn’t any closer to reaching my goals. I didn’t get it. I am an organized person! I thrived on structure and routine during the school year, why couldn’t I create that for myself? I told myself that I couldn’t. That I’m just someone who needs that external structure. That was terrible news for someone who wanted to work for herself and create a business. Enter the pandemic. After I got through the initial shock of it all, I decided that maybe I could be a person who creates structure for herself. Through trial and error of following a schedule,  what became clear to me was my biggest barrier to following my schedule was using my phone. I was spending hours upon hours on Instagram, Twitter and reading the news. Spending that much time on my phone made it so much harder to peel myself away to follow my schedule and do what I said I’d do. I’d miss the time I was supposed to start something and I’d head down a shame spiral. “You’ll never be able to do this. You messed up. Again. Why can’t I do this? Ugh, I don’t want to do that, it’s too hard. I’ll just do it later. It doesn’t matter anyway. Who cares.” During that time, I felt really frustrated with myself and I didn’t understand why I couldn’t follow a simple schedule. I mean, what else did I have going on? It’s not like I can leave the house! While I was doing some reading for my life coaching program, I learned about a technique that was designed for people who overdrink and I decided to apply it to my phone use. Holy cow it worked. And worked IMMEDIATELY. I noticed that within 2 days of following my plan, a black, heavy cloud that I didn’t even know was there, lifted. I felt light, my mind was clear and I had more energy and excitement than I had had in many, many years. I was waking up hours earlier, with ease, without an alarm. Going to be earlier without stress. Sleeping better. And, followed a schedule with {almost} no mind drama. By mind drama I mean the back and forth in my brain of whether or not to do the thing my schedule is telling me to do. The ONLY time I had trouble following my schedule is when I went off plan with my phone use. The ONLY time. It took me a few weeks to make that connection fully but when I did, things started getting really fun and a heck of a lot easier. It also led to me more clearly seeing the roadblocks to where I wanted to be – a full time life coach. So I took action on clearing those too, by investing in a program on selling and in a 1:1 life coach. All within a span of 1 week. Now to some more unexpected benefits. I am working out consistently – 6x per week. I am eating a lot healthier AND not eating out of boredom or stress. I am making progress in building my business. My house is clean, every single day. I’m reading for at least 30 minutes a day, and usually for longer than that – between an hour and an hour and a half. So, how did I do all of this? Planning. I plan out any time I want to spend on my phone, 24 hours in advance. I can plan out as much or as little as I want. I schedule what I will look at (Instagram, News, Twitter, Facebook, etc.), when I will look at it and for how long. I schedule it in my Google Calendar, along with everything else I want to accomplish the next day and I stick to it. I don’t hide my phone in another room, in fact, it’s next to me for most of the day. I use it to check my schedule and that’s it. If I’m having a really strong urge to look at social media – I just tell myself, I’ll be able to see whatever I’m looking for at my scheduled time. I use this same technique with my food. I write out exactly what I’m going to eat, 24 hours in advance. It can be anything I want – healthy, unhealthy or something in between and I stick to it. Again, if I have a really strong urge I tell myself I can have whatever it is tomorrow. Sometimes I write it in my plan and other times, by the time I get to writing my meal plan, the urge has passed. If you’re struggling with following a schedule or you want to spend less time on your phone, you’re not alone! And there’s a way out.

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Decisions From Possibility

By Gretta | May 16, 2020 | 0 Comments

How to make decisions for the future you want Why is it so hard to make decisions for ourselves that we’ve never made before? ⁣These are decisions that I would classify as “new decisions.” These can be anything from deciding to start exercising when you’ve never lifted weights in your adult life, deciding to use a calendar when you’ve never planned out a day in your life, or even deciding to follow a budget even though you don’t have a clue where to start. Or, investing in that course or that coach.  All of these decisions feel really daunting and our immediate reaction is to say ‘no.’ Why? We make decisions and we decide what’s right and what’s wrong. What’s “right” or “wrong” is based off of our belief systems from the past. Our brain looks to our past results to see what’s possible for us in the future. If it’s something we’ve never done our brain clams up and says no. way. Not possible. Never done it before.  Not interested! But why? ⁣Our brain doesn’t like to create new thinking because new thinking, according to our lower brain, is hard and dangerous. Our lower brain really likes to be efficient. Thinking the same thoughts = efficient. A great example of this is: think back to a time you started a new job or took a class in school that was really challenging. You were probably very focused, grasping to make sense of things and at the end of the day – very tired.⁣ That’s because it requires new thinking. When you go to make a new decision – ESPECIALLY one that you’ve never made before AND it involves money, time, effort and adopting a new identity, your lower brain is like lol no. This is definitely not a good decision. But the other part of your brain – the higher level, conscious brain that is thinking in possibility is saying YES. ⁣ ⁣Here’s where the pain comes in. In order to get new results you have to think new thoughts and make decisions from possibility, not from your past. Meaning you literally have to override your lower brain’s very well-worn way of thinking with your conscious brain to get to the new decision. ⁣Your lower brain will be telling you NO WAY. The whole time while you’re considering your new decision AND in the aftermath if you take the leap and say yes to the “new decision.” However, if you say no, you’ll feel relief. And that’s where things get tricky. It feels good in the moment but what you’re saying ‘no’ to possibility, to growth. Saying ‘yes’ to new decisions feels harder but it’s so worth it.  I firmly believe we are here to evolve and grow and become more of who we are. Notice I didn’t say better. We’re already 100% worthy – growth or stagnation doesn’t change that fact, but that’s for another post. ⁣Making new decisions for ourselves is disorienting and scary, but it’s unbelievably exciting, too. If you want to learn to get from where you are to where you want to be, schedule a consultation! It’s totally free, fun and great practice at making new decisions for yourself!

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Schedule a Consultation

By Gretta | May 15, 2020 | 14 Comments
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Strong Emotions

By Gretta | May 13, 2020 | 0 Comments

How to handle them. My heart was racing, my palms were sweaty and my mind couldn’t focus on anything other than the phone call I was going to have to make in 20 minutes. A few posts ago, I mentioned one of my biggest fears is showing up fully in the world and putting myself out there. One of my other greatest fears? And truly, I mean fears, is thinking someone I perceive to be in an authority position is mad at me or that I’m in trouble with said person. I got to experience that particular fear recently. In the past when a situation like this arose, my first reaction would be to get really defensive. And then maybe cry. And complain. And blame the other person. All in all I would essentially act like a child. Not that I’ve done any and all of those things in the past. At work. Ahem. As much as I wanted to hide, I sat with my fear. I labeled it. I breathed it in. I dropped into my body and described exactly what I was feeling: my heart is racing, my palms are sweaty, my diaphragm feels tight. I just sat and felt the fear. I didn’t try to push it away, even though I really wanted to. I didn’t react to it. I didn’t try to distract myself in an attempt to avoid it. I just felt it. When it was time to pick up the phone I was ready to go. My fear dissipated almost immediately. If you’re facing similar strong emotions and want some relief, labeling the emotion as best you can and describing how it feels in your body can be a really effective way to get a little space between you and the emotion. And, it doesn’t create any drama. Only when we resist, react or avoid emotions is when we get into trouble. Feeling an emotion, processing an emotion is the only way out. Our bodies and brains were created to process emotion. There’s no emotion we can’t feel. No emotion that our bodies aren’t able to process. As my teacher, Brooke Castillo says: the worst thing that can happen in any situation is you feel an emotion. Emotions are why we do or don’t do anything that we do in our lives. If we’re willing to show up and feel negative emotions, there’s nothing we won’t be willing to do. There’s no dream you can’t go after if you’re willing to feel negative emotions on purpose,  so get out there and feel terrible! 😉

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