The NUMBER ONE mistake I see when it comes to calendaring is fantasy planning.
Let me give you some examples:
You know you're getting back from a vacation on Sunday night. And you schedule your work day as normal on Monday, and you get a late start and struggle through your Monday.
You consistently schedule your days back-to-back-to-back with no breaks, even though you consistently run out of time.
You plan things you hope you'll want to do, or that you think you should do but when it comes time to do them, you bump those things to another day.
What all of these examples have in common is you're planning for the most motivated, energetic, focused, and well-rested version of yourself, instead of the REAL you.
Which brings us to the ONE thing your calendar must have: SELF-AWARENESS.
Self-awareness is the conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires.
And I would add, "worts and all."
I think where people get tripped up is, they think their calendar needs to be something to aim for or a representation of who they want to be - because how else will they grow?
And I think that's partially correct. BUT, you have to meet yourself where you're at, right now. And then add in a little "stretch".
Imagine the compound effect of doing this every week.
Your self-concept as someone who honors commitments to herself would SKYROCKET. Your growth? That would also skyrocket.
This is the sweet spot, my friend. & this is some of the work I do with my clients. I help them find their baseline that feels doable, that they can be consistent with, and add in the next thing that feels like growth.
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