Why you’re not doing what you want to do
You know what you want to be doing, but you're just not doing it.
Do you feel like all you do is try, fail, and wind up in the same place, over and over again? Like you're just spinning your wheels and not making any real progress?
This is because you're using the same old tools to try to create a new result. It would be like using bread, peanut butter, and jelly to make a steak dinner.
When you're using the same tools this will lead you to getting the same result, no matter how excited you are in the beginning and no matter how much you think this time will be different.
Here's how to know for sure if this is you. You think:
- You're just bad at following through.
- You never do what you say you will.
- You’re too busy, when life slows down, then you will ...
- It's too hard.
- You're just not the type of person who can _____ (work out, eat healthy, keep your house clean, stay on top of deadlines, be organized, etc.) insert any of your desired habits or routines here.
- You never saw an example of this new habit growing up, i.e. my parents were terrible with money and they never taught me how to be good with money.
These beliefs are your same old tools. And unless we change them, they will keep creating the same old result that you don't want.
The common theme with your old tools? Your inability to do what you want to do is out of your control, either due to your life circumstances or because you are fundamentally flawed.
If you think the problem is out of your control, you’ll also think the solution is out of your control.
Here's your coaching truth of the day: You’re the problem and you’re also the solution.
Here are the actual problems:
- Overwhelming yourself by not prioritizing (because you don’t know where to start and thinking that everything is important)
- Trying to do way too much at once (I’m looking at those of you trying to create a 10 step morning routine when right now just getting out of the house dressed and remotely on time is a feat - I see you, I WAS you)
- Not deciding where to start/just starting on one thing
- Waiting until life calms down
- Believing there’s something fixed, unchangeable, and inherently wrong with you that affects your ability to do the things you want to do
When these are the tools you're using, no matter how badly you want to change, you’ll feel overwhelmed and defeated. And when you’re feeling overwhelmed and defeated, you won’t be taking action.
These are problems we can actually solve for, unlike when you're believing it's your circumstances or that there's something wrong with you.
Here are the new tools to use to solve for your actual problem:
- Start small
- Start now
- Trust that there’s nothing wrong with you; you’ve just been trying to use bread, peanut butter, and jelly to create a steak dinner. You just need the right tools to create the new result.
So, take out that to-do list. Prioritize it. Pick the smallest thing and get started today ALL while trusting and believing that you can totally do this. Your past has nothing to do with what you can create starting NOW.
If you loved this and you’re ready to be the woman who does what she says she will, schedule a free consult call to see if we’re a good fit to work together.